One More Month

I'll be sixty in one more month. I wanted to write on this blog space every month until I turned sixty. That didn't happen. Just like so many things in this life for me it didn't happen. You know I can feel my tears right now as I write this so diapponited that I didn't make this life I was given a joyous one. My intentions are to write on this blog until I turn sixty. I wanted meaning in this life. I wanted excitement and I wanted love.
I'm back in the classroom again. Of course, I've been thinking about those days as a preschool teacher it was so much fun. The little people were so fun and loving. The world was so new to them and they just ate up everything I would tell them. They loved me and I loved them.
When I taught elementary school children it was such a very hard job. I forgot how mean children could be to each other. Their attitudes were so bad too. They looked like little teenagers and acted like them too. I was amazed how they would sit and find ways to hurt each others feelings. There would be few that would work at trying to get my attention but many didn't care if I was there or not.
Now I'm in the classroom again with high schoolers. This group of young people are so hard to reach and being locked up doesn't help the matter either. I know I'm not really reaching anyone and I'm always begging them to listen to me. I could feel myself getting so angry that they find themselves in a place where they're resticted and locked in and they only think of what can they do to get back to the hetic and crazy life they were living. (more later)

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I know I've written about friendship before but as I grow older and I realize how much I need and love my friends. I was feeling down today after getting off work. I don't think I feel comfortable working in that detention center. The kids are so depressing listening to them say such awful things to each other and me. My heart is broken seeing our black children so caught up in negativity. Everything is so harsh and evil. The way they throw off killing people as if its a joke. How to we allow for things to get like this. There's songs about smoking weed as if it's alright to do. My heart just sink every time I hear them sing that song. I don't like what I see and hear from our young people these days.
Listening to this has taken me down a little road of sadness. I wondered what is this all about? I began to question everything about the world and life. I find myself unsure of what to do and say to them to help encourage them to take this time and learn something. School is so improtant and I know they don't know how improtant it is and they fight agaisnt it. Trying to encourage them in a setting like that is so hard. I find myself taking it personelly. Why are they so mean to me? I'll think when its not about me at all it really all about how they're feeling at the time. I feel so old next to them I feel so out of touch with how the world is.

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I'm finally writing agian. Life is rally just a twinke. I tell you I feel that twinkle the other day  I fell down the stairs the other day. I couldn't believe it. I totally lost control as I was trubbling down the stairs I didn't know what to do I was scared. I remember yelling praying that I would be alright once I landed. I was fine busied and scared but alright.
From that incident i really see how everything can changed in the twinkling of an eye. Everything can be over just that quick. I could have hurt myself seriously just from that fall. I realized that my whole life could be different and I have so much to be grateful for my body is sore but I'm able to work and talk and live.

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Going to the chapel and they're going to get married!

I'm not sure if I've blogged that my only child is planning on getting married next year! I thought he would be a single man all his adult life. He came to me on several times telling me that he was going to marry someone and it didn't panout for them. This time it looks as if he's going to make it happen. I'm excited for him and Tiffany because they both seem so happy. He proposal to her while on a criuse in May. Tiffany said that she was pretty surprised didn't see it coming. She thought he was falling because of his hip so when he got down and asked her she was stunned. Have to be happy for them both they've been though a lot over the years. I didn't realize it was ten years that they've know each other. I'm so happy that they want to spend their lives together.

Everyone asked me if I like her and the answer is so YES. She's such a kind and intelligent young lady. I just find myself in awe of her intelligence. She's very kind I was so grateful for her when Rhodia passed away she was right there for me helping me. She's a great cook too. She always invite me over to grab something to eat because she knows I'm not a good cook. I'm just happy that he has found someone to love. Life is very lonely when you don't have someone that loves you. Look at me 59 and I don't have that experience under my belt. I'm also excited because they're planning a destation wedding in Jamacia. I've never been there before so it's going to be nice to witness a marriage in what I've heard a beautiful place. My hope is that they have some friends come along and wittness their marriage as well.

Of course my prayer for them is to live a life together working together. I pray that they support and encourage each other. That they look to each other for comfort and times of need and love and laughter through out their lives. I pray that they use their mony wisely and that they find an organization that they can give to. I pray that they work to leave a finical legacy for their grandchildren. I pray that they both spend time learning more about the love of Christ and they would want to live a life for Him. I pray that they live a healthy life taking care of their bodies eating the rights foods and getting rest and working out. My prayer is that their love for each other will continue to hold them together no matter what comes their way.


Everyone asked me if I like her and the answer is so YES. She's such a kind and intelligent young lady. I just find myself in awe of her intelligence. She's very kind I was so grateful for her when Rhodia passed away she was right there for me helping me. She's a great cook too. She always invite me over to grab something to eat because she knows I'm not a good cook. I'm just happy that he has found someone to love. Life is very lonely when you don't have someone that loves you. Look at me 59 and I don't have that experience under my belt. I'm also excited because they're planning a destation wedding in Jamacia. I've never been there before so it's going to be nice to witness a marriage in what I've heard a beautiful place. My hope is that they have some friends come along and wittness their marriage as well.

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There's so much to write about since I haven't written in a while I just don't know where to begin. I'll start at yesterday. I went to see the Lisa's daugther (Kirk's cousin) do a book signing at a book store. I watched this young intelligent woman talked about how she was able to come up with such beautiful poems about life. I was so amazed at how intune she was to herself and her thoughts but more improtantly to the plot of African American people in our society. At some point I couldn't really keep up with her because she was so advance in her thougths and langauage. Of course you know that I thought about the past. I looked at her and saw her mother and grandmother and growing up with them. Her mom Lisa was such a smart kid too. We had such great promise for her Lisa especially after she was given a scholarship to U of Michigan. Something happen and she quit. Then she had this beautiful little girl. Very sweet just like her mother. She was every mother's dream pretty, smart and kind. I thought more about her grandmother.

We weren't really encouraged as young people to excel on the level that young people are encouraged today. I know I grew up so bitter and so angry at the world that I was living in. I wanted to be a good students but found myself quitting and not really putting much into learning. I didn't see any hope for myself or for my future. I didn't see the future young woman like Chanel and my granddaughter, Kaylan. So smart and intelligent and gifted. I just thought of the song To Be Young Gifted and Black. I didn't see kids growing in the hood having grandchildren that would would one day work on getting a Ph.d, I just never saw that coming when I was a young teen ager. I looked at her and I wondered what would the world look like in twenty years it just has bo be so much better because these young people are just awesome.

What else is going on?

I'm on vacation now for three weeks. I haven't had a vacation like this in a long time. I found myself so lost and lonely. Isn't that awful all the time at work I would cry "I need a day off" I finally get that day and even extra and I'm crying about being lonely. I don't know how to take advantage of each day. How to take what I have and make the best of it. I think about my sister, Rhodia I look at the pictures she drew and I'm amazed at how she would just create I'm sure every hour of her life wasn't filled with something she had to do. She took those down times and she created her art. People use the word Passion a lot these days. I way to encourage people to devote time and energy into something they love that way time won't be so long and boring. I just can't seem to find my passion and this is probably why I spend so much time doing nothing. This is why it's so improtant to have chldren develop their interest so that they will know what brings them joy when they're older. I thought crocheting was going to be my passion because I loved making things but after several years of making things I got tired of croctheting and stopped. I did get angry with myself for giving it up because there is so much more I could have done using different stitches. I think this is why I struggle so much because I don't have a passion for anything. My mind wanders so much and I often find myself lost with nothing to do. I have friends that are so creative and work at their art all the time.
This is way I spend too much time doing nothing.

On Sunday we had a woman speaker. She made a comment that really stuck with me. She used the term "learned helplessness." I'd heard that term before when I was in school. I'm not sure if I made a connection with it back them but when she said it on Sunday it radiated with me very deeply. I realized then that's how I lived my life, being helpless. I learned it so early in life that i just held on to it for all my life. I've noticed that I do give up on things very quickly, I've noticed that if I don't get it right away I'm ready to just let it go. This is something that have held me back for years, not good.

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When I was a very little girl I would often baby sit for people my family knew. In my mind that was a job. I'd  baby sat for couples at the church we attended a lot. One couple had four children and they would have me come early in the morning and I would be with the children until late at night. I hated it at times but loved being with the children. Although this wasn't a full time job I did it enough to feel as if it was. If it wasn't someone from church it was family friends children. Now that I look back at my life I have be blessed with a job.

At a place in my life right now that I'm sort of tired of working. This isn't good because I'm not rich so that means I have to work.  I'm at a place now in my life where I want to do something different in my life I just can't find what that different would be. I've been blessed to have this positon working in a school as a Site-Coordinator for an after school program. I loved what I was able to do as a Site-Coordinator at ACE Academy when I really think about it Ihaving this job was like the dream job for me. I know I'd dreamed of working in a school running a program and having people come in and work with the students with fun and interactive learning. Even as a young girl I've always thought that I probably could learn more if I was more involved with the learning instead of just reading things all the time and just writing the answers on a sheet of paper. 

I got that opportunity to bring people in with skills and knowledge on subjects that the students would have the opportunity to have in a fun and interactive way. We had music, this class was more making cd's and rapping. I'm wasn't crazy about that because our students use lots of  profanity and inapprioate lyrics and we're constanly having them change the lyrics and they were never happy with that. The teacher would often try having a theme but the students only wanted to rap about money, girls or guns. I had to realized that this is what they were used to and we just had to stay on top of them.

The class that I had was so happy to bring to the school through the YMCA was keyboarding. Why Keyboarding? I've always wanted to play the keyboard and although I eventually took lesson as an adult maybe if I would have the opportunity to learn the keyboard earlier in life then I would be playing the piano now. I wanted the students to have some knowledge of the keyboard. The class started off as a drum class but because the room was sound proof the students would have headaches after the class. We were so fortuanate that the teacher that teaching drumming could also play the keyboard. When we had our Black History program one of the students played the Black National Anthem for us. If you could see my heart it was beaming with joy.

Two of the biggest joys came with me being able to write. I don't consider myself a writer because of my grammer. I'm sure you're finding lots of mistakes as you read my blogs. I know that there are young people that like to write and wanted to give them the opportunity to write. I got blessed with a young man that came and he was able to work with the students to make our first newsletter. It looked just like a newspaper. The students were very happy and I was over joyed. The young man that had the program for the newletter quit and I didn't have anyone to take his place. That meant that I had to try it myself. I found a newsletter format on the microsoft and made our first newsletter. Not all the boys jumped in on it but those that submitted articles had some very good stories, interveiws and poems to add to the newsletter. Doing the newsletter gave me the opportunity to develop my skills to write more. I was loving every minute I was putting time into writing the newsletter.

I also had the opportunity to work witht the students putting together the Black History program. It was so much fun coming up with skits with the students. I was pretty surprised with my writing coming up with skits. Putting it together was so much fun. I was surprised at how much fun I was having working with the students with lines, directing and writing. I saw myself as the woman I think I had dreamed of but I wasn't really sure but it was just amazing how my heart would beat faster everytime I would write or when I was working with the students on the parts in the show. I was loving putting the show together all my enegries were moving so fast and I was so high. Maybe I missed my calling I thought several times while working on the paper and the show. I would think I really should be a writer or an actress. I was so appreciative of the 21st Century Afterschool program that really gave me the opportunity to do such wonderful and fun things with the students.

We've learned that the grant for the afterschool program wasn't granted to our school this year. Heartbroken for sure yet I think I'm ready to move on. The thoughts of ending just keep moving through my mind. I'm beginning to think about all the jobs I've had over the years. Some I was so heart broken about that the tears would just over take me. This time I have no tears because I'll still be with the company but I will move on to another facility. I don't want to work in a youth detention center any more because I don't want to work with students with such bad attitudes. Yet, I don't see myself doing anything else. I'm sure many of midage people like myself find themselves in the same dilemma in their lives trying to picture themselves doing something else wotth while in their lives. I this point I feel like screaming but that won't make things better at all. Back to this job. I was blessed it was a good experience. I have Cathy to thank for that she and DeBorah recommeneded that I take the position nine years ago when they were planning on letting the other young lady go. I felt so bad about that I meet the young lady once and she was so nice, I didn't want to take the position because I had supervised people before and I really didn't like doing that. I really didn't feel I was the right person for the job. They convinced me and here I am today getting ready to move on.

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I dream of Africa.
That dream is coming more and more real to me after having such a wonderful experience with Vanessa and her friend, Denise. This woman is awesome and I mean awesome. She has had such a rich and fulfilling life. I couldn't believe I was sitting across from an African American woman that started a school for girls in South Africa. I heard this and cried right in front of her. I couldn't believe that the tears just came so quickly so unexpectedly. Why was I crying? She was helping my family that was left behind hundreds years ago. My blood line was there in Ghana Africa where my family roots begun on this planet earth. I quickly saw people being grabbed and taken away. I could hear women crying and I could feel their fears. Just as we were sitting there and she was sharing her story of how she and others came together to start a school for girls. One of those girls maybe related to me I thought and that's why the tears fell. Just knowing that she was apart of rebuilding a country that lost so much.

She shared with us the beauty of the country and how kind and helpful people were there. She gave us suggestion on places to visit while we were there and most improtantly she gave us an idea of how much it would cost. What a relief. I was imaginig at least two to three thousand dollars depending on where we will stay. My heart began to jump up and down because I was thinking over six thousand dollars now I can really plan. I began to sing "I'm going to Africa." Why does this mean so much too me? That's a very long story which sense I'm the only one reading this I can share.

When I was a very young girl maybe around 9 or ten I meet a missionary that had been to Africa. He lived over our church and only had one leg. That frigten me as a little girl seeing a man with one leg. I was told to go and help him out around the house a couple of times. He was a very small stucture man but very talkative. I was so what afraid of the different artifats he had in his small place. I didn't like looking at heads of people that were so black. They would always have ear rings in the heads or eyes were like diamonds. I would walk pass these artifats very slowly afraid that were evil and were used for voodoo. I had seen many of Tarzan movies and would see Africans holding these in their hands always dancing around and saying words I didn't understand.

He talked constantly about being in Africa and the people there being so kind and loving. That not what I was seeing on televison. He would that Africa was beautiful with water surrounding the land and everything was so much better there than in our country. He gave me a artificate of a zebra it too was all black. I loved that zebra it was so smooth to the touch. I took it home and held it and looked at it and then began to dream. I was dreaming of Africa. He would tell me all the time its such a beautiful place to see when you grow up he told me "visit Africa".

I grew up and I really forgot about the little man with the one leg. I don't really think I thought about him after he died. I did think of him once when I was a young adult around twenty when I met some really together African Americans that stressed the improtance of African American excepting our hertage being proud we were from Africa. I thought of him and his storeis of Africa. How much he loved being there. It helped me to ease into being proud of myself being black.

I didn't start really dreaming of Africa until I was in my forties. I had a friend that moved to Nigeria and became a missionary. Her mother and I were good friends and her mother had gone to visit her twice and she would tell me about how beautiful it was there. That brought my dream back again and wanted to go and see it for myself. I began to dream of Africa. What deepen that dream was learning about four years ago that our family roots are from Ghana Africa. I then long to see the "Mother Land." The more I learned about my hertage the more I wanted to see the place in which my blood line began. I have friends that are Italian, Greek, Finnish and they talked so highly of the country in which their bloodline began and several have visited those places. I wanted to have the same emotional feelings towards the land my people come from.

Now I'm working towards my dreaming coming true. I'm going to see Africa. I'm going next year my dream is going to come true. I will visit Africa. After talking to Denise I know now that it will come true. The work will have to begin selling books and doing Bag Lady again so that I can raise the money for my trip to Africa.

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Wonder Woman! She was the best! When I was a little girl I watched that show and loved it. Having a woman that was smart, beautiful and strong was just what I needed to have in my life at that time. Growing up in my house constantly being told that all I was good for was cooking, cleaning, and having babies. I heard that all the time. I hated being a girl.
There were so many things that meant so much to me. I know now that I played the victim all my life, man big mistake, right. Everything I wanted to do I was told that girls don't do that. I wanted to be a baseball player and learned that there wasn't a professional baseball team for women. Everything that I dreamed of doing I was told that women didn't do. I really should take that back. I wanted to be a teacher and women could do that. That's what the world seemed like than women teaching and nothing else. Of course there were other things women could do but they were all in a box. Nothing that would push women to be more.

I watched lots and lots of television as a child like most kids. It was hard breaking to see that the super heroes were all men. You know Batman and Robin, Superman, Spiderman they were all men. I could keep up pretty much with my younger brother pretending that I too was a super-hero. When Cat Woman showed up on television I was delighted but was teased to no end because she was considered a bad villain in the show not a super hero. I just didn't see women as being a value human in the world.

Then came Wonder Woman. She was everything I had hoped and dreamed of. She fought and gave up a punch that would have the bad guy flying. She was smart too finding way to solve the complicated problem that the world was facing at that time on the show. She was strong lifting up cars and other objects that would stop the bad guy from destroying the world. She was pretty a looker to the guys. She was well built and fashionable too. She was more than any woman could be and fighting crime.

I wanted to be her she had brought hope to women all over the world. She was opening up eyes for little girls everyone. She had me beginning to think that I could be more than then what everyone had told me I could be. I could be Wonder Woman! I went to see the new movie last night and I was still impressed with her. Although I didn't know how to take the story line seemed more spiritual. It was good to see women preparing for battle, being strong and smart. I am woman!
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Life has a way of breaking a person down and it's truly doing  a job on me. I'm referring to loving someone that just don't care about me. I hate to admit this but when I was growing up it was so hard to love my mother. I have to admit that I even carried that on into adulthood. I was my mother's second daughter and she loved me dearly she was a very troubled woman carrying all her pains and trails from her life and she took a lot out on her children. I couldn't see that growing up and I didn't know how to return the love to her. As a child I told myself that my children are going to love me and my grandchildren are going to love me too.

I was wrong on one account. I don't think my granddaughter loves me. I think she loves me as the woman that happened to be her father's mother and that's it. That hurts very deeply. I'd dream that my grandchildren would send me birthday cards like I send them and Mother's day cards. They would call me and talk to me to see how's things going with me. They would invite me to their outings and I would see them in school performances. None of that has happened for me. NONE OF THAT. Most of that couldn't happen because of the distance between us. She lives in Georgia and I in Michigan so that couldn't really happen for us My heart hurts because she was such a bright little girl that I would have loved to see her receiving awards for all the good work she did in school. I would have loved to have heard the last night Kelsey being called on stage for doing well in school. That didn't happen to me nor did it happen for my son. 

I thought if I would keep in touch with her over the years remembering her birthday and Christmas and other holidays that she would love me for that. I would send letters and call her anything just to maintain a loving relationship with her. I treasures those days when she was young and would come and visit with us. I held onto every moment of cooking together or reading together everything because I knew I wouldn't see her again until the next year. I couldn't wait to see her when we would drive that long road to see her for the holidays my heart just longing to be with her and talk to her and laugh with her. She was always so happy to share her room with me and show me all her friends and just be together. My tears would run like water falls when we had to go back home.  In my mind we were planting the seed of internal love for each other, grandmother and granddaughter's love. We could hear each others heart beat for each others and never lose the beat no matter how far away we were. I remember her laying on my chest and reading stories together and she saying how she could hear my heart beat. Nothing could take that sound away.

As I write this my heart hurts and the heart beats are drowning. I have to let her go. Birthday, holidays special days I get nothing from her. I've mentioned to her on several occasion on how to respect others by returning the favorite if someone remember you it's respectful to give back to that person especially when it's a family members. As she grew and grew nothing in return. Now don't think she's this heartless young woman because she isn't. She's kind and loving. Very smart and pretty it's just that for some reason I don't know what we don't have that same love for each other. I know why I found it hard to return the love to my mother. I thought she didn't care and love me. She was so hard on me verbally abusive at times and so I would pull back and just found it difficult to extend my love to her. Yet, I would remember her every occasion because she was my mother. 

She's an adult now and I don't feel that from her anymore. I don't feel the excitement she once had for me when she talks to me. I cry when holidays come and I get nothing but a phone call. I can't beg anymore for her affection towards me. I can't make her feel something that isn't there for me. I saw a clip of a show the other day on Facebook and a woman was in the court and her daughter was suing her mother for harassment. Her mother was trying to contact her to let her know that she was dying. I should say that the daughter didn't want to have anything to do with her mother because she was too black and uneducated. My heart just hurt for that mother. I often wonder why my granddaughter don't care for me anymore. Is it the color of my skin? Did I say something or do something? I have a college degree. Is it because I'm not pretty or fashionable? I just don't know. Maybe it's none of those things it's just that we've grown apart.  

What hurts the most is that my son suffers too. He tried to do the best he could as a long distance dad. No, he wasn't the best and he made a whole lot of mistakes but I think he worked hard to do the best he could. There's nothing between the two of them as well. I know he could just kick himself in the butt I know he wanted to be a good father and have a loving relationship with his child because he didn't have one with his dad. NOTHING! 

My prayer for her is that she continue to grow into the loving, intelligent, beautiful and gifted young lady she's growing into. A pray that she loves others with all her heart and that she helps those that do not have. I pray that what ever her dreams are that she reaches them and make new ones as she grows old. I pray that she become strong in body and in The Word of God. I pray that she always have someone that she loves and trust and that she never have the ache of not being loved in return. A pray that she sees the world not only on television but experiences it for herself. A pray that she save money for golden years and that she do what brings her joy. 

I will always remember that her small heart bumping and the laughs we had together and those yesterdays that tucked inside my mind. I want her to know that my heart still beats and that the a couple of those beats, beat for her. 

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I haven't written on this blog in a few weeks because I really didn't have too much to say. Actually, I did I just didn't know how to say it. I just had this awesome experience with my friend, Laura. She's writing a book about her husband's grandfather and so she doing lots of research on his family. She's enjoying ever minute of it. " a puzzle" she says that all the time. I admire how hard she's working on the book. I know its going to be just great when she finishes with it. She's a great artist as well.

She decided to go on Ancestry and do a quick search for me. I know my father's side of our family I actually got a chance to see my grandfather. He was old and fragile when I was a child. My last memory of him is he sitting with this bag on him. That was very puzzling for me at the time and I didn't want to go to hug him. That's all I remember of him. I know his name and my grandmother's name on my father's side but not much about my mother's mother.

My mother's mother died at a very young age. I believe she was in her thirty's. I'm not sure how she died. I thought it was from Ovarian Cancer that's what my sister had told me. My mother always talked about her actually she would cry. "My mother left me when I was 12 years old." she would say when she was very upset about things letting us know that she didn't have a mother to care for her and do Motherly things with. " I had to fend for myself." She would often say. As the year progress I would learn little things about my mom having to go from family to family members because her dad wasn't able to care for her. I could feel her bitterness and angry around being an only child and having to have to live like that. That mean I didn't know her mom's name or anything about her.

My oldest brother was pretty convicted about information regarding our mother as well. When talking to him he'll give me one name of our grandmother then he would change it to another name because our mother would say it was one or the other. In my mind I'm thinking why is this so difficult I wasn't taking into account that my mom came up in a time when things happen and you just move on. She was just a child and as the years passed her mom was probably not even mentioned anymore. What memory she had of her probably just faded away with time. I can understand the confusion around who I mother was and even her name.

Back to Laura and her search. The two of I searched at first. That was so amazing as we looked up my mother's father's name first. I had forgotten that his name was John Henry. That's interesting because my dad's name is Henry. I also noticed that it was listed in the censors at times that he was mulatto and a couple of people that were living in the house whole were too. I always thought that he was too because of his light complexion as well as his sister complexion. When we looked at other censors years they were listed colored. That's interesting how they were called colored what color. Maybe that's were the Irish in our blood comes from which I'd  learned from doing the DNA, 7% actually.  Momma would say that she had a grandfather that was white. Although I've learned from the search that Laura did he wasn't.

She was able to find information regarding my mother's mother and her parents as well. That's so exciting from just a name I wasn't sure of to knowing my great grandparents names as well. Laura was able to find his death certificate which gave some vital information. I'm overjoyed with this new information. The search must continue I have to learn more about her side of the family for sure.

As an African American I've never really thought much about my heritage I didn't really have that sense of pride about my people not even my family. I just looked at myself as just a person on the planet it didn't really matter my family didn't really matter. Ever one matters it doesn't matter our skin color we all matter it's just that I didn't know how to place me in this world. At 59 I"m beginning to realize that how we are to each other in the world is what really matters. I know I'm going off the path here but I think about my great grandparents and their everyday life and how they may have interacted with each other. I know now that my mother did have a family probably a family she didn't know. Her mother's family, Mr. Richard Pearson, grandfather John Herbert and grandmother (I couldn't really get her first name spelling), Wilson.


 The search must continue there's so much more to learn about my family. People that were here on this earth that's part of my genetic makeup. We all matter.

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This is a great big world and I'm here in Detroit. I often get depressed about my life that I'm not doing more with it. My friend showed me a video of her mentor yesterday and my jaws dropped as I watched this woman share her adventures over the years in her life. She got a motor cycle and traveled the country all by herself. That's freaking amazing! Why am I not doing anything with my life?

I don't have a whole lot to say because I'm so angry that I didn't work my life so that I could see the world. My dream is to see Africa and I don't know how I'm going to get the money to go to Ghana. I just want to see the land that my ancestors come from. The book Roots open so many African American realize that we had a land and it wasn't America. I have friends that talk about going to Italy or Greece their roots. The Mother Land people call it. I'm going home!

I would love to travel here in this country as well. There is so much to see here that I haven't seen and I want to see. I've done some traveling over the years but not enough to quiche my thrust for more. As a little girl my parents would take us south to visit their families in Jacksonville, Florida. I just loved that thinking we were pretty special because many of the kids in the neighborhood didn't have that opportunity. Maybe that's what got my travel bug stared.
I've been to so places that I like Washington D.C. Vegas, Chicago, Florida, California, Texas and Ohio. I want to see more I want to see more. This country is filled with beautiful places to see and its time for me to see that. Now I have to come up with a plan to get money in my pocket and go.

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I'm all funeral out. Of course I know that it's just life. The older I get the more I have to experience it.  It's one of those things about life that can be hard on a person especially emotionally. The very first funeral I attended it was my aunt, my dad's sister. All I remember really is going to the cemetery. I rode in a car with my younger cousins and I just couldn't understand why they were playing soul music on the way there after we had just left the church. I didn't know then how difficult they can be.
Life is not life without death. We all know this but some how dealing with it is so hard. Knowing that we're all only here on this planet for a short time and not knowing when that time or when someone we care about may leave is hard to think about.

I know the Bible tells us there is a time to live and a time to die. I really do like that scripture in the Bible. Ecclesiastes 3, I love how it's said a season. The seasons comes and goes like life. I love there is a purpose under the sun. We're all here for a purpose. That get thrown around a lot my purpose. I struggled with that actually, 10 years ago. I floated around not knowing what my purpose was. It looked as if everyone else knew their purpose except me. That was my pretentious of the world around people I thought they knew just what they wanted for their life and was working towards that. Girl, I was so wrong. I learned that I was living my purpose all along. Caring for people and loving and respecting others. Being there for those when they needed me. Trying to show love to everyone although I fell in that area (talk about that later) but being a loving sister (they may not agree with that), daughter, mother, friend, and teacher.  I devoted a great deal of my life loving Christ. Again I realize now that I wasn't the best christian on this earth. I didn't share the gospel with others like the Bible ask us to yet I loved The Lord.

I discovered other purpose and realize that I may have another purpose and my life as I continue to live. I thought it was just one thing and that's all I focus on that one thing. I thought it was to be a teacher now I realize that everyone are teachers. We teach in so many ways it just doesn't happen in a school. It happens all the time. So yes that was my purpose to teach and to continue to teach.

Life is complicated and life is fun. I've met so many loving and caring people on this earth I've learn that death come in many forms. I've experienced it so many times when I say good-bye to a very loving friend and we lose contact and lose that connection we had it was a death. A slow and quiet death one that may never be rekindled but stays within me as I wonder how's that person doing and wish we were still good friends. Ever time a friend moves on or I move on I experience that death. It's not just burying a person that you've loved for years it can be that last good-bye and see you later. Then life comes in and before you know you and that person have moved on and formed new friends.

Back to death. The last four years it seems that ever year someone passes away. The tears for me have fallen a lot for those that I love and their season has ended. Each time the memories of our time together flood though me. I laugh and I cry. Sometimes I was happy for that person because they didn't have to suffer any longer. Sometimes I cried like a baby because I wasn't ready for that person to leave this planet earth. I question God but knew there were no need for that because He knows what's best for us all. They've planted and reap what they planted. They've cried and seen wars. They've partied and danced and probably gotten drunk. They've lived their life and I'm sure have done so really good things in this life. God says from dust we've come and from dust we will return.

Season we're all in one for how long no one knows
I'm sure I'll have more to write on this subject.

The Year of 59(3)

I never really liked my body as a young woman. I wanted to be small and thin like several of my friends were over the years. I always seemed so much thinker than they not fat but thick. My thighs were always thick as watermelons. So round and bounces. As I look at them now they seemed to have spread over the years. It doesn't help to have a job where I sit all day and having worked out for months. Somebody (me) needs to join a gym like yesterday. That's a fear of aging is not being able to move around with ease and the only way to ensure that is to workout. I'm going to look into joining somewhere next week. My mom did very well as she got older. She worked in her garden religiously. As she aged she moved fairly well. I loved the little muscle that would stick up on her arms. I don't garden so that means hitting the gym.

My arms are getting thick too and that flabby look where your arms dangle when you lift them up. I gotta get in the gym. There's a older woman weight lifter that's been in social media and she's like a rock or a stone wall I should say. Not I don't want to look like that although she looks fantastic at 81 I just want to feel good and look good. That means hitting that gym and making it work. What I really don't like is dragging my feet. Every once and a while I hear my feet dragging as I walk around the house. This ticks me off as I know that I'm not doing enough to keep my body oil and strong so it's showing and everyday things like walking. It's time for me to take my body back. 

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I'm pretty excited about doing a blog on my year of 59. I've often wondered about my mother and sister when they were my age. Neither shared about their change I really didn't noticed their changes into later in life. Mom looked young for a very long time like me I remember people saying that she looked so much younger than her age. I seemed to inherit that too. Rhodia body seemed to change and it was showing the aging process the knuckles on her hand began to swell looking like pecan sitting on them. I noticed there were big knots sitting on her elbow as well. She didn't complain much about it knowing what was going on. We knew that her body would be only get worse as she aged and I couldn't imagine what it would like.

Yesterday, I wanted to let my landlord know about a couple things at the house. She called me and I could not think of what I wanted to tell. I went on the tennis court and there she was and I still couldn't think of what I wanted to tell. After she drove off then I remembered. I was so upset that I couldn't remember. I seemed to forget things now more than I did a year ago. I love the walking out of the room and then going into the room and forgetting what I wanted from that room. I use to hear older people say its the mind that goes first. NO! That can't happen There's too much to remember especially in this generation with passwords for every thing you do on the computer. My son was upset that I didn't remember his phone number. I don't need to know it anymore because it's locked in the phone.

Of course everyone my age is fearful of losing their mind no ones wants to relay on someone for everything they would have to do. One thing that I have a real difficult time remembering is my address now that's not good at all.
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The Year of 59

  The year is quickly moving by it's already the end of the month and spring is in the air. The winter linker for what seemed forever. Although, it was a pleasant winter. I really enjoyed going out on the court in January playing tennis. Unbelievable in January. I enjoyed every minute of the nice weather we had especially after the harsh weather we had two years ago. That 10 and 11 inches of snow was wiping me out. 

  I've decided that I'm going to use this space to write about the ending of my fifties. I'm still in disbelieve that I'll be 60 in January. I wanted to take the time to write about my year of 59 and share what my thoughts and some experiences I will have as I end my fifties and enter into my sixties.  I wish I would have thought of this in January when I turned 59 but I've learned as I've aged that it's never to late do what you want to do. 

The numerology number 60 is a number of family, home, and nurturing.

It's also a number of harmony and idealism, the ideal generally related to a harmonious family relationship.

60 has maternal and paternal instincts. It assumes responsibility for the welfare of others, especially those it considers to be family.

The energy represented by the number 60 constructs a concept of how things should be for the welfare of those in its sphere of existence. This influences how 60 nurtures its family and approaches it's responsibilities.

Responsibilities are taken seriously. They include responsibilities 60 takes onto itself as well as those 60 perceives are expected to be assumed by someone at the helm of a family's well-being.

There is an urge for everything to be, or continuously get closer to, the ideal according to the point of view of the number 60.

The numerology number 60 is comfortable interacting with others. In social situations, 60 may put itself forth to guide the agend

The time clock of life is pressing forward. I remember when I was just 20 and thought I had a long time before I would be 60. That time flashed right passed me. I'm going to share my happy days and my not so happy days. I'm going to share the changes that going with me mind, body and soul. I'm going to be present in my last year of 59 and you're going to know all about it.